July 21, 2014

Sporadic blogging for the next week

Hello everyone,

I just wanted to let you know that you may not hear from me for the next week or so. Unfortunately, Cakes lost his father in early May very suddenly (I alluded to it in this post). It was a big shock to everyone and very unexpected. The family's doing better now but the funeral was this weekend.

Kindly keep us all in your prayers. We're praying for protection, good health, grace, strength, peace, journey mercies, etc.

Thanks and God bless.

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July 16, 2014

Proverbs Blog-Along Day 14

Sawry I'm having to play catch-up again. See what had happened was... oh, you don't need to hear my excuse? How thoughtful of you. Anyways, let's jump in!

DAY 14
This chapter was chock full of nuggets about the wise versus the foolish person. But the verses below are the ones that stood out to me particularly. (I used the CEV this time)
1A woman's family is held together by her wisdom,
but it can be destroyed by her foolishness.
I can't do justice to this verse. It speaks volumes to women (wives, mothers, especially). 

2By living right, you show that you respect the Lord;
by being deceitful, you show that you despise him.
We have to constantly remind ourselves that we're not living our lives for ourselves. How we conduct our lives, what we say, do, or think is all a reflection of our relationship with God. If we truly respect and love Him, it will show in our actions, speech and thoughts. It's as simple as that. 

7Stay away from fools, or you won't learn a thing.
This is a no-brainer. 

10No one else can really know how sad or happy you are.
10The person who shuns the bitter moments of friends will be an outsider at their celebrations. [MSG]
The first version is from CEV. I thought it was really insightful because anyone can put up a front of being happy, but be sad in reality (I've been there myself, as recently as a few weeks ago even). I wanted to see the same verse in a different version, and while the Message version is quite different, I think it also has a valuable lesson. To be a good friend means being there ALL THE TIME. You can't pick and choose when you want to be a friend. There will be difficult times in everyone's lives, and a good friend should stand by in those times. If you don't, how will you even show your face when the good times have rolled back in? 

28The mark of a good leader is loyal followers; leadership is nothing without a following.
Dear leaders and future leaders, please take note. Also pay attention to the word, LOYAL.

God bless.

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July 15, 2014

Proverbs Blog-Along Day 13

DAY 13
Some of the verses that stood out to me were
7Some who are poor pretend to be rich;
others who are rich pretend to be poor.
LOL, come to Lagos and see the number of guys pretending to be CEOs and MDs, driving big cars that double as their homes, because they can't afford rent.

8The rich can pay a ransom for their lives,
but the poor won’t even get threatened.
In a normal society, this is true. The wealthy people are the ones who attract thieves or kidnappers. However, Nigeria is not a normal society. 

What I did this Weekend

Soooooo my weekend was jam packed with errands and running around. I really didn't do much in the way of fun, apart from a lovely lunch hosted by my girl, Chee and her mum. Conversation was stimulating, the food was yummy, but Lin's baby was the highlight of the day!!! I just love babies, and Cakes would almost not let go of her. I almost feel sorry for our children, cos mummy and daddy will be fighting over them!

July 14, 2014

Berry and Cakes' Foot Massage Conversations

Hola amigos!

Every now and then I like to let you in our conversations as husband and wife (or newlyweds). You've seen our Kitchen Conversations, and Car Conversations. This is the Foot Massage edition :)


*Cakes walks into the house*
Cakes: Baby, please can you give me a foot massage?
Berry: Sure thing!


Berry: *enters room, feeling very tired with tingles in her feet*
Cakes: Babe, what's wrong?
Berry: Nothing.
Cakes: Are you sure? You've gone quiet and keeping to yourself.
Berry: I said "Nothing."
Cakes: Hmm, fine. I don't know what the attitude is for. I'll just leave you.
Berry: *rolls eyes*

Fifteen minutes later...

Berry: *walks to the living room*
Cakes: Hey babe.
Berry: *bursts into tears*
Cakes: Ah ah, what's wrong?
Berry: *sob sob*
Cakes: Talk to me.
Berry: *wail wail*
Cakes: Stop nowwww, what's the matter?
Berry: *in between heaving crying* I'M SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO..... STRESSED OUT!!!!
Cakes: Okay, come, let me hold you. What's stressing you out?
Berry: *coughs* EVERYTHING! This country is too stressful. I'm tired of driving, I'm tired of traffic, I can't go to the spa until all the bills are paid. And even if I go, I'll come out to the stress again. I'M TIRED! *sniffs*
Cakes: But who said you can't go to the spa? We have enough money to do things.
Berry: NO! We have to pay rent in December.
Cakes: *walks off, comes back with his laptop* Do I need to show you the bank statements? We have enough. We just have big items we need to take care of now, and there'll be money for rent in December.
Berry: But we have to save the money now *waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaail*
Cakes: You know what, you need to have more faith in God. He provides for us now and He'll provide for us later.
Berry: *walks off to the bedroom and slams the door* SOBBBBBBBBBBBBBING
Cakes: *comes in and before he can say anything*
Berry: *tears streaming down face* I didn't say I wanted a lecture on my faith. ALL I WANTED WAS FOR YOU TO GIVE ME A FOOT MASSAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *dramatically flops on bed coughing, sniffing, bawling*
Cakes: :-S Why didn't you just say that in the first place?


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Proverbs Blog-Along Day 12

So of course, we were busy throughout the weekend, and I wasn't able to update with Days 12 and 13 like I hoped I would. Well, here goes :)

DAY 12
Again, this chapter has the usual comparative sayings. Right off the bat, I very quickly saw verses that resonated with me...
1To learn, you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate correction.
At first I read this with a different context in mind, seeing discipline as defined by regular study or practice of something. In that context, I still think the first part of the verse is apt. You can't learn if you're not disciplined. How many people actually imbibe any knowledge, if they don't discipline themselves to regularly read, study or practice something often? Using the "correct" context though, looking at discipline as reprimand or correction for doing something wrong, it still holds true. You have to be willing to take correction and learn from your mistakes.
4A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones. 

4A helpful wife is a jewel for her husband, but a shameless wife will make his bones rot. [CEV]
I'm nowhere near perfect (as my dramatics confirm) but I really hope Cakes feels I'm a worthy wife to him. [Ahem, sorry for picking fights with you this weekend. It was the PMS]

9Better to be an ordinary person with a servant than to be self-important but have no food.
This might be just me, but I don't know how anyone can feel pompous and self-important, when they have nothing to speak of.

16A fool is quick-tempered, but a wise person stays calm when insulted.
:( God is really dealing with my conscience here. I get irritated very quickly... wait, maybe it was the PMSing this weekend? Okay, no... sometimes I get irritated very quickly and start sulking when I should just calm down and chill out.

25Worry weighs a person down; an encouraging word cheers a person up.
Cakes and my mum are always telling me to calm down and stop worrying. I literally feel sometimes like the weight of the world (okay Nigeria) is on my head and I can't do anything about it. I should learn to always cast my burdens and worries on Jesus...

I was going to put Day/Chapter 13 in this post as well, but this one is long enough already. I quoted using the NLT versions.

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July 11, 2014

Proverbs Blog-Along: Day 11

Now that I've finally caught up, hopefully, these should come with 1 chapter every single day :)

This chapter is full of comparisons between godly and ungodly people, wise and foolish people, honest and dishonest people, etc.

The very first verse that caught my eye today though was
14Without wise leadership, a nation falls;


Another couple of verses that made me go "hmmm" were
24Give freely and become more wealthy; be stingy and lose everything.
25The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed.
I think Cakes is a good example of someone who gives freely and it's been apparent that he's been doing better in life. I wonder though, if 'becoming more wealthy' is strictly related to just finances. I doubt it, because you hear of people who don't have much monetarily, but they're big givers and they're full of love, full of joy, and that's a kind of wealth, isn't it?

Verse 28 talks about trusting money...
28Trust in your money and down you go! But the godly flourish like leaves in spring.
For me, I struggle a little bit with this. It's not that I put money above God, but I feel safer and more secure when there's money in my bank account. Cakes and I differ in this aspect a lot. I worry about saving, saving, saving and he's more relaxed because he knows that God will provide, no matter what. I didn't actually think I would be like this, because when I was younger (and my mum will attest to this), I always said, "Money's important, but it's not THAT important. As long as I'm comfortable, everything's alright." And now, my perspective has changed a little bit. I'm not pursuing money or anything like that, but I begin to really panic when my bank account gets to a certain balance.

I pray that my attitude towards money changes with time, and that I learn to trust God more, so that even if I lose my job tomorrow (GOD FORBID O, I'M JUST SAYING) that I will put my faith in Him. Amen.

Have a pretty weekend, you pretty person. Yes, you too, you pretty male person. *winks*

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