August 21, 2014

Events this Weekend

Hello loverly loves!

I just want to share some events this weekend that I think would be fun to attend. Yeah yeah, social butterfly, blah blah blah. It's good to go out and connect with people. JUST REMEMBER to take your hand sanitizers and keep a small bottle of hand wash handy (hehe, hand - handy, *chuckles* I slay myself!!!).

Without further ado...

The first event is called THE CONVO. It's an interactive mixer for mature adults who are single and dating (and they said us Marrieds can come too, cos I was about to go and picket the event for D.A.M. aka Discrimination Against Marrieds :p). Anyways, the flyer's below and it looks like it would be a fun event. You have buy tickets BEFOREHAND at Afritickets before 9pm TODAY, and the event starts at 2:45pm this Saturday at Nike Art Museum and Gallery.

The next event is a book reading by Ebi Akpeti. She has written "God Has A Sense of Humour," which is a  collection of short funny stories, that includes powerful messages for women and the men who love them :) This event starts at 3pm, also on Saturday, at Bogobiri House in Ikoyi. There'll be music, comedy, and you can always get drinks and food there.

Ebi was one of the participants during the TW Fitness Challenge from last year.

And that my friends should ensure you have a fun and uplifting weekend, if you live in Lagos.

Have a pretty day :)
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August 20, 2014

Jealous of your Girlfriend


I feel like the worst blogger in the whole entire world of blogging. But since you know me so well, you've already figured out that I traveled and that's why I've largely been silent. Of course I missed you! I'll tell you all about my trip in a future post but on the plane, Alicia Keys' Songs in A Minor album was available for my listening pleasure. Aaaand, one of my favorite songs from her is 'Girlfriend.' You know the lyrics...

I think I'm jealous of your girlfriend
Although she's just a girl that is your friend
I think I'm jealous of your girlfriend
She bears a special part of youuuu

Listening to the song brought back old memories for me. You see, at a time, that song could have been written about me. I had this best friend who lived in a different state, and I'd fly over to visit two or three times a year (that's when airfare was cheap as heck!!!) Anyways, because we were close, I usually found myself in the position of the alleged other woman. His girlfriends, one after the other, all suspected that our friendship was more than platonic. In my defense, it's not my fault that I'm super easy to talk to :D As I was saying, my best friend's girlfriends didn't like me because they thought I was laying quietly by the corner to make my move and capture his heart!!!! Yeah right, there was noooo attraction whatsoever on our part.

But something I remembered on the plane was how feisty I was. I always thought that their jealousy was their personal problem and had absolutely nothing to do with me. I would say to myself that they'd have to get used to the fact that I was in his life and would be there forever... well, it didn't last forever - we used to fight like cat and dog; one day we had just drifted apart... If I was in that same position now, half of me thinks to take the mature road and try to become friends with the girlfriend, so that we could all live happily ever after. The other half of me is still feisty and wouldn't care if a girlfriend was jealous of me.

What would you do? Have you ever been in this situation - as the girlfriend or the girl friend?

August 15, 2014

More Music... Hello Paul Simon!

Yo yo homies yo yo!

How y'all doin? I must say, I feel a pep in my step today (I'll let you know why in a few weeks). So even with all the bad news that's going around Nigeria and the world, I'm just going to let them fall off my shoulders :D

On the way to work this morning, Inspiration FM 92.3 played one of my fave old songs by Paul Simon. Cakes and I danced along, because if you grew up in Nigeria, there was a time where Paul Simon was IT!!! This was after he released his South African inspired (and even recorded) album, Graceland. If I remember correctly, this was also my first introduction to the wonderfully talented Ladysmith Black Mambazo. I mean, the nostalgia and memories... I had a very nice childhood :)

Anyways, so I thought, what better way to usher in the weekend with some videos from Paul Simon!!!! I hope you have a happy time. Love ya, but God loves you waaaaaaaaaaaaay infinity times more!





Okay, I'm done. Enjoy!

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August 12, 2014

Don't Worry, Be Happy

If you'd driven to work with me this morning, you would have seen me humming, oohing, mmming, and whistling along to Bobby McFerrin's song... all this with tears in my eyes. As soon as the song started, I remembered that Robin Williams, who tragically killed himself this week was in the video. I thought to myself, "This was a man who brought laughter and joy to so many people, and yet had pain within him." It's really sad, and I wish he didn't have to go like that.

If you're feeling sad, alone, depressed, for whatever reason, please talk to someone. Please tell someone. Hey, you can even email me! But don't go through it alone. I've been there and it literally feels like you're surrounded by darkness - it took the prayers of my family and others to God before I was able to get out of that funk (I barely spoke to anyone for 3 weeks and it's one of my most painful memories, and always brings tears to me).

You are NOT ALONE!

And with that, here's the titular video - my heart goes out to Mr. Williams' family.

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What I did this Weekend: Friends, Family, L'Espace

Hey everyone,

I hope you've gotten off to a great start this week! Mine is being quite wonky to be honest. But I'm refusing to be stressed out anymore. If it works out, fine. If it doesn't, that's their business - a customer will be lost for life, and there are other vendors. Anyways, I digress. My weekend was full of activity [again]. Honestly, I really feel like I hardly do anything at all, but my friends and family always joke about me being a social butterfly - so NOT true.

I rushed home after work, so that Cakes and I could head over to my dearest Lin's house to chill. We ate (yummy prawns, snails, spring rolls, samosas), drank (mojitos, champagne, water, etc), chatted about Ebola, and watched a family video. I forgot to take pictures, so just try and imagine it in your head. Meanwhile, I decided that night that I was sick and tired of my twists. I determined that my front edges were being twisted and dry, and so I made up my mind to take them off that night. However, when I got home, I was exhausted and saved that activity for the next day.

August 11, 2014

Proverbs Blog-Along: Day 19

Yup yup, moving right along to Chapter 19!

These are the verses I liked the most from this chapter...
Enthusiasm without knowledge is no good;
haste makes mistakes.
To me, this speaks about the value of planning. Yes, you might have a brilliant idea and want to run with it immediately, but you need to take a chill pill and explore how best to go about your idea before making any rash decisions. This can be applied to business ventures, wedding planning, your occupation, finances, etc.

People ruin their lives by their own foolishness
and then are angry at the lord.
Lol, imagine that God has been telling you to stay away from a particular boyfriend or girlfriend, but noooooooooo, you insist that he/she is the one. The next thing, they cheat on you and break your heart, and you go and cry to God asking why He allowed such hurt to touch you. Lol, wouldn't it be funny, if God said, "Haha, you're a joker sha."

Many seek favors from a ruler;
everyone is the friend of a person who gives gifts!
I think this verse is very true. People in power, or people who are rich and/or very generous tend to have a lot of friends and "friends."

To acquire wisdom is to love yourself;
people who cherish understanding will prosper.
Do you love yourself? Yes? Are you doing what you can to acquire wisdom, develop yourself professionally, spiritually, relationally, financially, etc-ally? No? Ooops, you don't love yourself.

11 Sensible people control their temper;
they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.
Dear Lord, I thank you for the progress made in my life, and I pray for your grace to get even better. Especially when I'm driving. Please forgive me for my terrible display this morning. Amen.

14 Fathers can give their sons an inheritance of houses and wealth,
but only the lord can give an understanding wife.

Wow! Another chapter that mentions the value of a wife... an understanding wife, that is. :)
17 If you help the poor, you are lending to the lord
and he will repay you!

I've mentioned a loooooong time ago how I feel about giving, especially to the poor, especially in Nigeria. There are beggars on pretty much every road, and while I choose to give to only disabled people or children, sometimes I wonder who I think I am to decide who is "worthy" or not of my giving. Of course, there are those who are only out to get money for drugs or alcohol, but is it my place to judge? At the end of the day, I'm obeying God's word and giving to those who are less fortunate, right?

23 Fear of the lord leads to life,
bringing security and protection from harm.

Alrighty ladies and gentlemen, any verses that speak to you that I might have missed? Or would you like to contribute to my discussions?

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Proverbs Blog-Along: Day 18

Ooops, I stopped again. I'm soooooooooooooooo sorry. I made a mental note every day until today, but decided to just do it today, instead of thinking about it only. So where were we? Chapter 17 was the last post in the series. I meant to do Days 18 to 20, but this turned into a longer post than I planned.

DAY 18
1It's selfish and stupid to think only of yourself (CEV)
In light of the recent Ebola outbreak across West Africa, I'm using the first part of verse 1 to ask why anyone who knowingly has the disease or has come in contact with someone with the disease refuses to report themselves to the authorities or be quarantined. I hear someone in Lagos who was at risk of having ebola refused to be quarantined, and now she actually has the disease!!!! She has family members who are now at risk! Is it fair?!?!?! People, DO NOT BE SELFISH!!!
10The name of the lord is a strong fortress;
the godly run to him and are safe.
I only picked out this verse because of the song... "The name of the Lord is, a strong tower, the righteous run into it, and they are saaaaaafe." I like running into (no pun intended) verses that are the basis for Christian songs. :)
11The rich think of their wealth as a strong defense;
they imagine it to be a high wall of safety.
Let me not even lie, I feel more comfortable when there's a certain level of money available to me (which is relative because I'm sure some people consider me poor, whereas other consider me rich - haha, yeah right). The point is, when my account drops below a certain balance, I start to panic like the world is about to fall out of the sky. SO WRONG!!!
13Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.
13 It's stupid and embarrassing to give an answer before you listen. (CEV)
I decided to quote from 2 versions because it gives a more weighty message. How many times have you started talking and arguing and jumping to conclusions before you've even gotten the full story? I know I have! 
16Giving a gift can open doors; it gives access to important people!
I can't help but think of how people who give bribes will now use this verse to their benefit. :(
21The tongue can bring death or life;
Watch what you say. Your words ARE powerful. Sometimes, I even extend it to my thoughts, because before you say it, you've thought it. If you can vanquish negative thoughts towards someone else, then you won't even utter the words. I have to admit that a lot of times sha, I have to ask God for forgiveness from some mean things in my head. 
22The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the lord. (CEV)
22 A man's greatest treasure is his wife - she is a gift from the LORD. 
Cakes quotes this verse (I put 2 versions) and it makes me smile :)

24There are “friends” who destroy each other,
but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.
24Some friends don't help,
but a true friend is closer
than your own family. (CEV)
Isn't this verse so true?!?! When you've found a true friend, you've basically found someone as good as, if not better, than even your own family members. I actually think it's doubly sweeter if/when your family members ARE your friends, e.g. my siblings and parents are among the best friends I could ever have. There's some form of communication EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. I also have other non-family members who are so close, I call them cousins or sisters, because a lot people don't understand why we're that close.

What are your favorite verses from Chapter 18?


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